The LoveMore Institute blog

How to Develop a Loving Spirit

Dr. Karyn Purvis, the co-author of The Connected Child, and whose research, work, and love have served as a cutting-edge reference point for how to love foster and adopted children, found that parents' stress levels often exceed their own windows of tolerance. In her research, she found that some parents of these special children get so worn down physically that they literally cannot love their children. Dr. Purvis calls it "fried." Their neurotransmitter markers are off the charts low. Their brain has pretty much given up, and their stress hormones have filled their bodies and brain to such a degree that love is not only not a choice, it is not even an option. Read more →

Love, A Simple Understanding

Love is always a good topic of discussion. Everyone knows what it means, right? No. It is probably much closer to the truth that it means something different to each person, but for now, let's look at a simple, child-like way to define it. Read more →

Build a Better Brain: Creating Long-Term Learning—Part 2 Conclusion

Rule #4 (personalized learning) is in some ways the "bad news". There is no recipe that works for all people all the time. Shaping as it is referred to is far too unique and patterns of variability can be frustratingly obvious and cause us sometimes to lose hope. The bright side of this however is that it can help us in questioning the traditions and culture that we grew up with that said "this is what a good parent is or does". It is one thing to do or be a particular way with a certain belief, it is entirely another thing that this actually helps us optimize the desired outcomes. Read more →

Build a Better Brain: Creating Long-Term Learning Pt. 1

Have patience toward yourself and your children, knowing that it will likely take many more repetitions for the short-term learning to move into the structural change in the brain for real long-term learning. Have some fun with this. Be mindful of the process and what you observe and celebrate the short term learning, the repetitive success that you see, and the eventual unconsciously expressed “correct or desired” outcome or behavior as it becomes second nature—kind of like breathing. It just happens naturally. Read more →

Don't Believe Everything You Think

This finding—which the team replicated with tests on the second group of participants—suggests that the metacognition of radicals plays a part in shaping their beliefs. In other words, they actually can’t question their own ideas the same way more moderate individuals can. Read more →